service please

I have always had a strange relationship with waitrons. I am a cheapskate (student budget) with expensive taste(so to speak). When I have money I grab a bunch of my buddies and we head out on a nite on the town...thats normal right? The tip is the trickiest part of the whole exercise. I always end up being annoyed with the waitrons for either being too attentive or for ignoring us. I can never figure out which annoys me more. The waiter who comes to the table after each bite to ask "u ladies still ok" or the one who teleports himself to space and only reappears when we start straining our necks trying to get his/her attention?